Chrisitan dating advice
To enter into any relationship with the expectation that it will be the key to a happy life is to place an idolatrous, unhealthy, and unrealistic expectation on it.
This expectation will only suffocate any potential for the relationship to grow in a healthy way.
All of us go through a stage where we assume we’re a boyfriend or girlfriend away from having it all.
We believe that if we could find our “true love,” all the issues that bring us down will fade into the background.
Many of us would rather put up with abuse and dysfunction in our relationships than be alone, so we go to great lengths to minimize or deny any abusive behaviour.
“Well, she’s not like that all the time.” “It isn’t really that bad.” “It’s no big deal.
You know it’s unhealthy, and chances are it’s negatively impacting every area of your life, including your relationship with God.
You should talk to a friend, parent, or pastor you trust who can help you transition out of your relationship. This piece of advice often comes from one of my high school students when we brainstorm relationship advice together as a group.
Maybe it brings us some kind of self-righteous satisfaction that we’re suffering for a greater purpose and are willing to love someone so “complicated.” Regardless of your particular situation, if you are involved in an abusive relationship—whether the abuse is physical, emotional, or sexual—you need to end it.
However, we need to be careful that even good, healthy dating relationships don’t become stumbling blocks that cause us to forsake our first love (Revelation 2:4).