Childless men dating
Over the two decades between 19 the average age of mothers at the birth of a child in England and Wales rose by two years, from 27.7 to 29.7.
But it’s not just women who are waiting longer to have children.
Now, though, I am the one in my mid-thirties and although I don’t have ovaries, I do have aspirations to be an active and energetic father.
My dad was 29 when he had me and while it probably didn’t register with me at the time, it was brilliant to have a dad who could still beat me in a race (and an arm-wrestle) when I was in my early teens.
When I was in my twenties, I went out with someone over six years older than me for whom having children was clearly on the agenda.
It forced our relationship to find answers quicker than we otherwise might have done and often focused my mind.
Significantly, many men continued to have children at much older ages than women.
There were 31,643 babies born in 2011 to fathers aged 45 and over while there were only 1,832 babies born to mothers in the same bracket. When I look around me at men of a similar age, many still haven’t become fathers. The answer almost certainly lies in the fact that becoming a father at 40 seems less risky than waiting that long to become a mother.
A woman’s ticking clock on the other hand is almost cemented into the lexicon.One headline shouted: “‘Don’t leave it too late to have children,’ MEN are warned.’” Apparently, the longer a man delays fatherhood, the more likely his sperm is to become 'mutant'. The article pointed to research which claimed that older fathers are more likely to sire a child with autism or schizophrenia.There might also be a greater risk of cancer and heart disease.By: Megan Gannon, News Editor Published: 04/06/2013 AM EDT on Live Science Even though there's often more social pressure on women to have kids, men may actually feel more depressed and lonely over not having children, according to the results of a small British survey.
The findings were presented at the annual meeting of the British Sociological Association in London Wednesday (April 3) by Robin Hadley, of the United Kingdom's Keele University, who polled 27 men and 81 women who didn't have kids.
In fact, a simple calculation reveals that the majority of my close male friends haven’t got children. It may be that a complacency sets in among some men - including myself perhaps - and that fatherhood is taken for granted.