Teenage dating breakups
Break-ups are the ending of relationships, the cutting of ties.
Once you’ve broken up with somebody, they don’t owe you anything except giving your shit back.
Finally, she replied, “I do not want to see or hear from you ever again” and threatened to file an anti-harassment order against me.
The open, thoughtful, communicative Emma I knew had vanished.
Being on the receiving end of a cutoff, surrounded by friends and culture that just expect you to get over it, can leave you feeling utterly powerless. In fact, I’m fairly sure the mind just curled up in the corner, making “buh-buh-buh” sounds as it flicks its finger over its lips. You don’t have to justify them and you sure as shit don’t get to dictate terms afterwards.As they were ending things, Emma gave him the traditional softening-the-breakup line: “we can still be friends.” .Following our breakup, she continued to say she wanted to be friends.They aren’t required to hold your hand as you process your issues.
They don’t need to be “generous of spirit [and vagina]” while you’re trying to get over them. (And before anyone brings it up: yes, I talk about requirements when you’re dumping someone.
Emma once told me, “You’re the first one to want me for me,” but her abrupt about-face might make you think I ran off with her best friend or boiled her rabbit … In fact, to this day, I have only guesses to make sense of her hostility to me.